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Polyamory Series

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The planning

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Diary problems,

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richness of agendas,

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shared agendas....

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How do we do it?
This is a recurring question

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in these discussion groups
on polyamory.

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How do you do it?
with the schedule?

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How do we organize ourselves?

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Shared agenda?
Google.

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What do we say to the other one?

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Should we ask him for permission?
No.

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The pleasure of discovering,

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in the shared agenda,

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a first name one night.

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We choose dates,
recurring days:

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You're on Tuesday,
I'm on Thursdays.

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And then everyone is free.

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Agenda, planning, organization,

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life, children, friends,

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lovers, lovers....

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And then... how to choose?
Who to choose?

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Why choose one or the other
rather than the other one?

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That day, that weekend,
that week,

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that night, that night?

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Does it hurt the other one?

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How does the other one figure it out?

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Asymmetry of relationships.
Symmetry of relationships.

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Complexity.
Embrace complexity.

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Don't pretend
that things are simple.

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Does that make them more complicated?
Maybe not!

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Maybe deep down, assuming their complexity,

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makes it necessary to talk about it,

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and finally it simplifies, it pacifies,

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it makes you question yourself,
it makes you work on yourself.

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Thanks to Nassera Tamer

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A film by Benoît Labourdette

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Voice, text, drawing
Benoît Labourdette

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Topic
Nassera Tamer